This is a short one – a bit of practice for myself!
Blog feed back (summarized) – Clinic and sharing
- Not structured enough! Use headings! (see above
- Use pictures to catch attention! (ok, fine, but limited time!)
- I like to read your reflections (thank you – it warms my heart!)
- Think in two steps: First to “satisfy my own learning” (Yes, I am personal) and two: Think about the reader (engaging)
- Reflect on feedback (!) questions (my own insight)
- Read all others “individual reflection” – and come up with a better blog post list of how to do a reflection. What Can I learn about the journey? What concerns me?
- Thank people for taking time to read a blog post by reply! (my own insight) So ….
Thank you – Here is a SUNFLOWER for you from my garden. – Thank you for commenting and Thank you for feedback!
On topic: Allowing to let others take space – implicit about group work (our groups)!
Context: As I am a “seasoned” and trained “process” therapeutic (Gestalt Therapy) with massive experience on group work I commented on our group:
- It is OK that people take space (younger people often need validation and “be right” ) It is ok for me to give that space – as long as it does not dominate the group
- There is trust in our group, as we can almost “fight” in what way we should do things. (That is a good thing!)
- Even if people “pushed” and we had a bit of work load sharing – we all contributed – but one method was pushed by leader. It was ok to mention we also wanted to learn, and the leader willingly shared. Hence, I was happy with conclusion.
- It is a worry that not all have trust in the group – but this is very deep, cultural and personal. It takes time. Allowing people to “not” be super active – lurkers can also contribute.
- Social awkwardness and speaking up in a bigger group is also something that can take time for some. Asking everyone how they feel right now is a good thing (like the Group 10 check-in procedure).
On Being Topic 3 Leader
On paper: We are four leaders, but I feel we are not four leaders. I miss my male mexican collegue – that would balance us “strong-headed women” Where are you? Please find a secure connection and join us. Please join?!
- Relying on someone for leadership is hard. This makes me very tired, as I feel I have to carry the load – and my body aches after a day in front of the computer. I guess responsibility?
- Now – I work with the wonderful people who both prepare, and make things happen. It works fine! I trust the process, I trust the group. Go with the flow.
- My ambition of bringing more references I hope pays off. My own list is long. I realized I must read a lot. I do not have time. What is really “enough”?
- Why am my own reflections missing references? I guess I read faster than “write a blog or a research paper”. Do I not reflect sufficiently? I sure do! Cause you are on my mind!
- I think paying forward is important. Let others do (their) mistakes and successes…….How much to feedback? Just enough so people are validated they are seen and heard.
- Allowing others and “not” go with my own stuff is moving me outside my comfort zone. So, Make it easy (stay with familiar) – or learn new? Of course learn new! That means,
only contribute to “get things started/going” – then not push your own (way – method, theory, tool). Hence, Get the ball running (by starting), but then “withdraw).
No, I must rest before it is time. Hugs there! If you come this far, you need it!
